How to Surrender and Let Go: The Secret to Creating Space for a New You
In a world obsessed with hustle, achievement, and constant doing, the idea of surrendering can feel counterintuitive. But here's the thing, learning to let go is one of the most powerful ways to create space for a new, aligned version of yourself.
In this post, you’ll learn:
The difference between masculine and feminine energy
How balancing both energies can transform your life
Signs you’re leaning too heavily into one energy
Practical steps to start creating that balance today
I was stuck in overdrive, always in masculine energy: constantly taking action, pushing, forcing things to happen. But I was burnt out, unmotivated, and not feeling in flow. It was when I realized I wasn’t letting myself surrender that everything started to shift.
When I made space for my feminine energy to balance out the masculine, that’s when things started aligning.
Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energy
We all carry both masculine and feminine energy, regardless of gender. These energies influence how we think, feel, and show up in the world.
If you're feeling stuck or drained, you're likely leaning too heavily into the energy that's not supporting you.
Top Feminine Energy Traits:
Intuition and inner knowing
Creativity and flow
Receptiveness and openness
Nurturing and empathy
Patience and trust
Softness and gentleness
Feminine energy is the nurturer, the grower, the idea hub, the energy that creates and holds space.
Top Masculine Energy Traits:
Structure and discipline
Logic and analysis
Action and decisiveness
Assertiveness and confidence
Goal-oriented focus
Drive and determination
Masculine energy is the builder, the doer, the one who takes ideas and makes them real.
Why Balance Matters
Living too heavily in one energy can leave you feeling disconnected, stuck, or out of alignment. It's not about forcing a 50/50 split between masculine and feminine, it’s about creating harmony between both energies to support you at different times.
As women, we often try to do it all, career, family, self-care, relationships. We have been pushed out of our feminine and into the masculine. But when we try to push through all the time, we risk burnout. Sometimes, surrendering and slowing down is where the magic happens.
Balanced Energy Looks Like:
Taking inspired action (masculine) while trusting the process (feminine)
Setting clear goals (masculine) but allowing flexibility in how they unfold (feminine)
Being assertive (masculine) while remaining compassionate (feminine)
Signs You’re Too Heavily in Your Masculine Energy:
Struggling to rest or relax without guilt
Overthinking, analyzing, or needing to control everything
Feeling disconnected from your intuition or emotions
Difficulty asking for help or receiving support
Prioritizing productivity over joy
Always being on the go or forcing outcomes
Signs You’re Too Heavily in Your Feminine Energy:
Difficulty making decisions or taking decisive action
Struggling with boundaries, often saying “yes” when you mean “no”
Feeling overly dependent on others for direction
Difficulty following through on goals
Feeling lost in dreams without practical steps
Overflowing with ideas but unable to start
How to Create Balance Between Masculine and Feminine Energy
Embrace Surrender: Release control in situations beyond your power. Trust that what’s meant for you will come.
Take Inspired Action: Blend your intuition with practical steps. Feel into your decisions before acting.
Create Structure for Flow: Use routines to ground yourself while allowing space for creativity. A journaling practice, for example, can help you stay connected to your deeper feelings while bringing clarity to your thoughts.
The Next Step:
As your here I think you would love my manifesting VS hard work article. This takes the masculine energy of hard work and combines it with the feminine energy of manifesting (don’t worry it’s not all woo-woo we will talk about the science there too)
